#RealTalk-Week 4 // Handling Conflict // Pastor Kate Murphy

Scripture: Matthew 13:44-46, Luke 8:21 & 11:28

Dear Church,

Jesus liked to tell stories about seeking and finding.  He told one parable about a man seeking treasure who found some buried in a field.  He hid it again; went away and sold everything he had and then bought the field. 

We are all seeking treasure here.  We are searching for deep, true, real & joyful life with Jesus and one another at the Grove.  I believe Jesus has planted that longing in each of our hearts, and I believe that Jesus was telling the truth when he said that those who seek will find.  But I also believe that Jesus was telling the truth in his story about the treasure hidden in the field.  It will require real effort, real sacrifices and real risk to find what we are searching for. 

We will have to fight to become the healthy and holy church we are seeking.

Literally.

Sometimes, God will heal and grow and bless us through conflict.  But there is a right and a wrong way to approach conflict, and most of us have never been taught the difference.  There is a faithful way to fight that will bear fruit for the Kingdom.

I hope you will join me for the last installment of our #realtalk worship series.  We are going to dive into the practical dos and don’ts of conflict. We can’t avoid conflict–but we can learn how to make our fights worth having.

Peace,

Pastor Kate

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#RealTalk-Week 3 // Embracing Conflict // Pastor Kate Murphy

Scripture: 2 Corinthians 12:7b-10

Dear Church,

#realtalk: My greatest fear is rejection.  Because I’m afraid of rejection, I really dread conflict.  For years, I avoided it like the plague.  I’d do anything to avoid having a painful conversation with anyone–much less someone I loved.  Maybe this is part of your story too.

But what I’m learning is, we can find deliverance in the very things we ask God to deliver us from.  Conflict isn’t a sin or a burden.  It’s a reality we navigate as humans. For years, my dream was to serve a church without any conflict.  But a church without conflict isn’t possible, and it certainly wouldn’t be healthy.  Now I see that conflict is just another opportunity for God to bless us.  Conflict is something we can get good at!

We need to have right expectations of the role conflict plays in healthy communities. And we need to learn how to participate in conflict in a holy way.  We need to learn how to ‘fight clean,’ trusting and expecting that God’s grace and power will bind us together, even as we seek peace. Conflict can help us grow into a healthy and holy community.

Together, I believe the Holy Spirit will teach us to have difficult, truth-filled and loving conflict that makes us a freer, safer and more joyful community!

Peace,

Pastor Kate

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#RealTalk-Week 2 // It Must Be Love // Pastor Kate Murphy

Scripture: 1 Corinthians 13:1-13

Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

It’s wedding season, so you may have heard these words recently on someone’s special day.  The trouble is, we tend to reserve Paul’s wisdom for ceremonial occasions, when we need them most on ordinary Tuesdays when the kids are late, the bills can’t be paid and the toilet is leaking.  We treat this revelation like a beautiful poem to be admired in a museum, instead of what it is: practical instructions for #realtalk.

Paul starts out saying, if I speak in the tongues of men or angels, have prophetic wisdom, mountain-moving faith or even all-encompassing generosity, it’s not enough.  None of it matters, unless I also speak and live love.

Culture hasn’t changed much in 2,000 years.  It’s still everyone’s goal to be interesting, wise, powerful and impressive.  That’s more than enough for the world, but Paul says-you can be all those things and still miss the mark.  If Jesus matters to you, then your everyday, ordinary #realtalk must be love. (spoiler alert: love is always kind but rarely nice.)

I hope you’ll join me as we lean into Paul’s wisdom.

Peace,

Pastor Kate

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#RealTalk-Week 1 // Our Words Matter // Pastor Kate Murphy

Scripture: Genesis 1:1-5, John 1:1-5, Matthew 12:33-37 (NIV)

In Matthew 12, our Lord says that the words we use reveal who we are:

“Make a tree good and its fruit will be good, or make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad, for a tree is recognized by its fruit. You brood of vipers, how can you who are evil say anything good? For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in him, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in him. But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.”

He’s not saying as long as we say one prayer one time, whatever else we say for the rest of our lives doesn’t matter. He’s saying our words show us who we really are. Our words shape us.

How we talk matters–there is nothing more powerful, more spiritual or more important than how we talk to one another.

Words make worlds.

I hope you’ll join me as we start our new #realtalk worship series.  Because the way we talk matters, because even more than our actions, our talking forms our community.

Peace,

Pastor Kate

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Pentecost // As I Have Loved You // Pastor Kate Murphy

Scripture: John 14:15-31

Dear Church,

This Sunday is the most important day in the Christian year–and most of us have never heard of it.  We love to celebrate Christmas and the joy of the birth of our savior.  We love to celebrate Easter and the astonishing triumph of Resurrection.  The goodness and glory of God is certainly on display and worth celebrating on those holy days!

But this Sunday we celebrate Pentecost, the coming of the Holy Spirit into the hearts of all believers!  And Jesus himself says that Pentecost is the reason that he was born and the reason his death is not a loss for the world.  When he sat with his friends the night he was betrayed, he told them that he was ‘going away for a little while.’  That’s an extraordinary way to describe his impending betrayal, condemnation, crucifixion and death! And then he told them something even more astonishing.  He reassured them that it was good for them that he was going.

How could it be good for the people who loved Jesus that he was going to die?

Because–Jesus promises his frightened and confused friends who feel like he’s abandoning them–when he returns to the Father, he will ask God to send them the Holy Spirit.  And then, he will be even closer to them.   Once they are filled with the Holy Spirit, they’ll be even closer to Jesus than when they sit at the same table and share a meal with him. Once they are filled with the Spirit, Jesus will be living within them.

This Sunday, we celebrate the day Jesus kept his promise and poured his Spirit out upon the earth.  Because of Pentecost, we can never be separated from our Savior! 

Come and rejoice, friends! God still pours the Spirit out–

and there is more than enough for everyone!

Come and worship, church! 

This Sunday is literally the day we were made for!

Peace,

Pastor Kate

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Grace Notes-Week 5 // Walk to Emmaus // Pastor Kate Murphy

Scripture: Luke 24:13-35

“We had hoped that he was the one…” (Luke 24:21)

These are some of the most poignant words in all of scripture.  They were spoken by two ex-disciples.  It was Easter afternoon, and they were heading back to their former lives.  They’d heard from the women about angels, they’d heard from the men about an empty tomb.  But none of that mattered to their broken hearts.  It turned out, Jesus wasn’t who they’d hoped he was.

Then, along came a stranger.  A curious stranger who didn’t seem to know anything about Jesus.  The ex-disciples had nothing better to do, so they filled him in on everything that had happened.  Not just what they knew, but also how they felt–their sadness and shame and disappointment.

And then a second miracle happens: they listen to the stranger.  They thought they were the experts, but all of a sudden, he’s teaching them, showing them how Moses and the prophets foretold things would happen in exactly this way.  They are so fascinated by the stranger, so engaged by the conversation, that they invite him to join them for dinner.

And then the third miracle happens.

As they sit at table, the stranger takes bread, gives thanks, breaks it and gives it to them and their eyes are opened, and they recognized him.  The stranger isn’t a stranger after all.  The stranger is Jesus, the one they thought they knew so well. 

I can’t tell you how much I am looking forward to being with you all again! I am incredibly grateful for the time you gave me to step away and work on my book, but I have missed being with you so much.  I follow Jesus better when I walk with you. 

We are living the truth of the Emmaus story at the Grove. Those who once were strangers have become treasured friends.  There are vital truths about Jesus that we can never discover for ourselves, we can only receive them from one another.  Now, as then, Jesus reveals himself to us in our friendships with those who once were unknown to us.  No matter how mature we are, we will never outgrow our need for one another.   

Peace,

Pastor Kate

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Grace Notes-Week 3 // Resurrection Life // Dr. Wes Vander Lugt

Scripture: John 11:1-74Dr.

Dear Church,

During this season of Eastertide, we are celebrating the reality of a risen Jesus and how this Jesus still encounters us today. That can be a wonderful thing, but it’s also uncontrollable and often uncomfortable. As James Baldwin wrote, “The Lord never seems to get there when you want him, but when he arrives he’s always right on time.” This Sunday we’ll be exploring the story of Lazarus in John 11 and how Jesus encountered each character not when or how they wanted, but in fitting and transformative ways. How might the Lord be meeting us in similar ways? How is God calling you into a whole new resurrection life? I hope you can join us as we listen to the Spirit together.

Grace and peace-
Wes Vander Lugt

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Grace Notes-Week 2 // Being Human // Cedric Lundy

Scripture: Genesis 1:26-31, 2:4-9, 2:15

This Sunday we will be blessed with the words of guest preacher Cedric Lundy.  A native of Ann Arbor, MI, Cedric Lundy moved to Charlotte NC in the summer of 2004 after earning his Bachelor’s Degree in Youth Ministry and Biblical Studies from Spring Arbor University. Husband to wife Emma since 2007 they are parents to daughter Isla. Cedric spent thirteen years in local church pastoral ministry predominantly as a Middle School Student Ministry Pastor, but also as a Campus Pastor and Pastor of Justice & Teams. Cedric’s burden in ministry and influence expanded beyond just youth. He regularly facilitated seminars for parents, preaches at local churches, and co-hosts a podcast.

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Grace Notes-Week 1 // Community // Nicole Thompson

Scripture: Ephesians 4:1-16 (NIV)

Dear Church,

Have you ever wondered how you were going to get through something?  Has anything in your life seemed so painful or overwhelming that you can’t begin to see a positive outcome or any outcome at all?  Without knowing your problem let me offer you an answer.  We will get through it together.  We you may ask, we who?  We, the body of Christ.  We, your brothers and sisters who are charged to bear one another’s burdens.  We who will celebrate the wins you experience and mourn the losses that come your way.   This is what comes with being in community with one another, we are never alone.  This Sunday we will read from the epistle of the Apostle Paul to the Ephesians and explore how we are equipped to support one another as a community.     

Peace,

Nicole Thompson

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A Welcome Table // Tale of Two Women // Pastor Kate Murphy

Scripture: Luke 10:38-42

This week the Grove was pulsing with life, tiny feet kicking the back of pews, little hands struggling to squeeze out exactly the right amount of glue, big people taking deep breaths trying to remain present to the joy and promise bursting forth out of the chaos.  The day after Easter, you created an oasis of welcome and creativity and wonder and hope and lively peace for children and their families. 

Because the truth is–there is no day after Easter.  When Christ rose from the grave, he renewed creation–as it was in the beginning, as it ever shall be, the good news of resurrection is that it is that way now, with Christ.  The kingdom of God is in the midst of us–and signs of new life, the Kingdom of God, are all around us.   They may not always be visible or impressive to those who are not seeking the Kingdom, but for those whose minds have been renewed in Christ, there is more than enough to celebrate.

Peace,

Pastor Kate

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